A mature person is one who does not think only
in absolutes, who is able to be objective even when deeply stirred emotionally,
who has learned that there is both good and bad in all people and all things,
and who walks humbly and deals charitably. ~ By Eleanor Roosevelt
The world seems to be filled with
immature and drama driven people. Webster defines immature as: lacking
complete growth, differentiation, or development. I think the immature lack consciousness or
awareness. They cannot truly see
themselves through others’ eyes. They
only see what is being done to them and how others have contributed to their
problems. They rarely see how they have
created their own life. To be a mature adult means to live with integrity, responsibility,
and be reflective about our life and choices.
To live with integrity is to live honestly
with moral and ethical character. To
live responsibly is to always do what needs to be done and accept that our
choices have put us where we are. Where ever we go, there we will be. You
cannot live responsibly and blame others at the same time. We all have people and experiences in our
lives that have been damaging, but it is how we chose to let those experiences affect
us that are important. Also, to be a
mature adult requires reflection. Reflection
is simply to be able to look at ourselves, our actions, and our circumstances and
think about them deeply. Also, as a
mature adult, I believe we can make a conscious choice of who we want to be and
how we want to live. We can pick quality
friends to be in our life; we can treat others like we want to be treated; we
can stop blaming others for our circumstances; we can stop being petty and understand
what is important in life. We can also
make a plan for our lives and what we want it to look like, and then move
forward on it. What actions need to take
place to get to where we want to be? Where ever we go, there we will be.
But very importantly, we need to stop our
anger. We are a petty culture. Maybe it is time to give others the benefit
of the doubt, stop assuming the worst, and be the kind of person we would want
to be friends with. Anger just gets in
the way, muddles up our relationships, and hinders us in emotional growth. It take valuable energy that could and should
be allocated for family, work, friends, and lifting ourselves up to the highest
level. So whatever is going on in your life that is causing you to whine, complain, or blame--build a bridge and get over
it.